I burst into tears as soon as I turned away from the counter. I had woken up at 3:30am to get to the airport and waited till 6:30pm to learn that my flight had been cancelled and I wasn’t able to get another flight out for two days.
I realized pretty quickly that my upset was caused by my lack of control in the situation. There was nothing I could do about the cancelled flights, or the storms causing them. I could do nothing about the reservation cancellation at the Dome or not being able to get Wylie on the phone. Knowing this did not help. I felt powerless. I cried and my heart ached.
And then it shifted. I finally got Wylie on the phone, but with a bad connection and he hung up. I was livid, and my anger gave me a way out of the funk I was in. I was able to stop worrying about the things that were out of my control, and respond to the situation more positively. I vented and made plans to go to the movies.
Don’t get me wrong, I was still not a happy camper, but anger is a more positive emotion than sadness. Stormy Dawn still wasn’t much fun to be around, but at least now I could laugh at the situations I found myself in, like how angry I got at the cabbie who had no idea how to get to 86th & 3rd in a city laid out like a grid, and it felt good to laugh.
Mad is better than sad.
If you organize emotions like crayons in a box, you can relate the energetic vibration of emotions to the frequencies that allow us to see color. Lower vibrational emotions like fear, guilt and anger can be represented by greys, blacks and reds. Higher vibration emotions like trust, happiness and love are represented by blues, greens and purples. It’s illustrated here in this Abraham-Hicks chart.
Powerlessness is at the bottom with anger at least a notch or two above it.
Anger gets a bad wrap because people are uncomfortable with its expression, but it’s a very useful emotion. Anger can motivate, inspire and clarify.
How many times have you thought to yourself or said out loud, “I’ll show you” or “Just watch me” before accomplishing some task or fear that someone said was out of your reach. You were motivated by anger.
Or something happened that you didn’t like and you made a decision that you didn’t want to feel that way again. Anger gave you clarity. It has its purpose.
Like working with color, you can change your emotions by shifting something. Have red and want orange? Add yellow. Feeling powerless and want to feel better? Get angry.
The energetic vibrations of emotion can be seen in the body and give you clues as to how to remedy them as well. Lower energetic vibrations like anger have certain physical symptoms expressed through body language. The pace of your walk, the way you carry your body and certainly your facial expression all convey the emotion you’re experiencing. Change any one of those symptoms and your vibration will start to shift.
Moving your body is the easiest way to shift your energy. Negative emotions will cause your body to contract and positive feelings cause you to expand. To shift your energy, take a walk, stand up straight, breathe deeply, or look up at the horizon. When you’re feeling low, even these simple actions can seem quite unappealing, but they work.
Two days later, after having navigated the sea of negative emotions, I was moved by what a difference a day makes. I smiled as I walked to the corner bodega to get my breakfast. I was excited to be able to order a “regular” coffee and an egg and cheese on a roll. It didn’t matter that it was a make your own coffee kinda place. I found joy in knowing where the milk for my coffee was kept, even though I had never been there before. The idea of spending the night in my own bed with my man didn’t hurt either.
So, it’s your turn. How has anger served you?